The Option Process® Dialogue

Do you want to learn to be happier?
Are you afraid of being hurt in relationships?
Are you concerned about current or future health issues?
Are finances and money a plaguing concern?
Do you have issues regarding sexuality or gender identity?

If you answered yes to any of the above, it’s time to consider your options.

The Option Process Dialogue has profoundly impacted the lives of thousands of people. This process teaches individuals how to uncover and eliminate self-limiting beliefs and attitudes that have fueled their discomfort, distress, and seemingly self-sabotaging behaviors. In this way, those utilizing the dialogue process often drastically increase their feelings of well-being and learn to create more joyous ways of experiencing life.

  zoom image The Option Process Dialogue, used for more than four decades, is a highly respectful and effective system of questions asked with a non-judgmental and non-directive attitude. This process builds on the legacy of the Greek philosopher Socrates, who used probing questions to challenge his students to discover their own answers. Today, our counselors work with participants worldwide to help them uncover and eliminate self-defeating beliefs and attitudes that fuel their discomfort, distress and self-limiting behaviors.

The dialogue puts you, the explorer, in the directorial position to guide your own journey and determine your own destination. In effect, it allows us to change the way we think and, thereby, change the way we feel and act. This inevitably results in increased self-trust, self-empowerment, happiness and clarity as well as a creating a renewed sense of purpose (living our lives on our own terms), passion, and optimism. This truly is the ultimate tool for personal change.

No matter where you are located, all of these sessions can be done via Zoom and other video platforms or over the phone, from the intimacy and comfort of your own home or office. In addition to having your own individual private session, dialogues can also be scheduled for couples, family members, co-workers, or others participating in a continuing relationship.

Sessions via Zoom!


Getting Started

You can schedule an individual session or packages with Option Institute Certified Mentors (packages of four and more are offered at a 10% reduction). Individual dialogues can also be scheduled with the institute’s founders. If this process is new to you, there are a number of resources available for you to learn about the Option Process (in advance of doing dialogues if you want). These resources will also explain just how impactful dialogues can be to help you dramatically improve your outlook, and life experiences.
PowerDialogues Book


PowerDialogues is the most readable, useful, and comprehensive guidebook to date on the Option Process® Dialogue. As a landmark book for thousands of people around the world, it offers a unique, simple, and effective tool for personal growth. It is now being used, as well, by helping professionals as a cutting-edge adjunct to many educational, therapeutic, and spiritual traditions.
Giant Steps Book

Giant Steps:

This book illustrates the powerful, life-changing Option Process® Dialogue in action. With a caring and loving hand, Barry Neil Kaufman takes us on a very intimate journey with the young people he has helped during critical challenges in their lives (a dying parent, divorce, abortion, sexuality issues, learning disabilities, addiction et al.).
To Love Is To Be Happy With Book

To Love Is To Be Happy With:

This best-selling book, which details the principles and applications of The Option Process® and how dialogues can be used to understand and unscramble life’s major issues.

Read Reviews

I love the Option Process Dialogue! I’ve come to understand myself and why I do the things I do. My very first Dialogue with an Option Process Mentor saved my marriage! Today, I’m so much happier and more relaxed. Every part of my personal and professional life has been improved through the Dialogue.

Ronda F.

Movie Theater Owner, PA

I feel so blessed to have found the Option Process Dialogue. To achieve such miraculous and lifelong changes from such a subtle and gentle process, has been a wonderful revelation to me. The love and acceptance l felt taught me that there is an easy and wondrous way to grow comfortably, I now feel such a profound sense of peace, safety and security within myself thanks to the dialogues.

Guy B.

Company Director, Kenya

I just finished doing a dialogue and, as so often happens, I felt a sense of gratitude towards you and the great work that you and the Institute have done sharing The Option Process with the world. I often think of you, Bears, and Samahria with deep gratitude. This time I am glad to actually express it to you. Thank you, thank you! My whole life has been change tremendously because of your work and these dialogues.

Isis Maria C.

Human Services, New York

The private dialogue session was the most wonderful and meaningful experience of my life. I feel different, happy, as though a tremendous weight has been lifted from my shoulders. What a pleasure!

Eric S.

Businessman, New Jersey

I came to the Option Institute feeling I was a failure, and that I hadn’t succeeded in so many areas in my life. I would literally shake at the thought of speaking in public and used to talk myself out of jobs before I’d even gone for the interview – a classic case of self-sabotage. Oh, how I have blossomed! I have never in my whole life felt so sure of myself and I believe I can be anything I want to be. I now know I am a fantastic mother/daughter and using the Option Process Dialogues I really love myself and who I’ve become.

Vicki M.

Registered Nurse, Scotland

I have been doing Option Process Dialogues regularly for a year now, and today I can say that I am confident and depression free! It did not matter how much of a mess I was, how morbid I felt, or how dark my thoughts were, my mentor invariably listened to me, and I felt accepted and understood. I am incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to do dialogues and get really sharp and helpful questions that are a real gift to me.

Charlotte S.

Singer, Switzerland

For the first time, I now feel in control of my emotions. With the Option Process Mentor/ Counselor asking me gentle questions, I was able to unravel my feelings concerning the past and move forward with a new freedom I’d never before experienced! I continue to use the dialogue with myself and have adopted the attitude of a Mentor in my work as a dyslexia consultant. It allows clients, and particularly their parents, to resolve the negative feelings they sometimes have about their dyslexia – and move forward in a more positive way.

Joe B.

Dyslexia Consultant, United Kingdom

It never ceases to amaze me how much I discover about how I operate in my life. Each time I come closer and closer to being who I really want to be in my life by truly getting to know myself on a cellular level. By giving myself the gift of these unique dialogues, I now know how to address the discomforts in my life, no matter what the stimulus.

Denise D.

Lawyer, Ireland

A dialogue is like taking a deep breath into making my life more oxygenated, free and happy. During each session, I am asked non-directive questions and my role is to decide, step-by-step, which door inside myself I wanted to open. With each answer, a thousand other possibilities appear to me, where, previously, there had been many dead-ends.

Ana Karine B.

Government Advisor Brazil

Through carefully chosen exercises, both experiential and thought-provoking, I allowed myself to discover the roots of dozens of issues that have burdened me for years. The dialogue puts in place a mechanism (tool) that makes my therapy sessions back home look quite ridiculous. I am challenging old beliefs so rapidly now that I often notice I’m walking around smiling a broad smile while even alone.

Nancy H.

Artist, Pennsylvania

A journey to a different mind-set, so reachable it’s mind-boggling. To think peace of mind is so possible is exhilarating.

Dorothy G.

Psychiatrist, Massachusetts

This is the first time I have been given a practical down-to-earth method, through dialogues, to get what I’ve always wanted – a fully present, highly functioning, centered and genuinely happy me. I strongly believe there is no greater gift you can give yourself, than the gift of an Option Institute experience and an Option Process Dialogue.

Rosanne N.

Realtor, Connecticut

To find out how to benefit from these sessions or to book a dialogue: call one of our program advisors at (413) 229-2100 of (800) 714-2779 or email us.


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The Option Institute and its teachers have had the honor to present programs (during the last four decades) that explore the attitudes and beliefs we have (and may want to change) and to help program participants find their own answers to questions about relationships, careers, family challenges and health issues. Our new program, Health & Healing: Navigating Life’s Health Challenges (formerly '5 Days to Live') , focuses on navigating significant health challenges and decision-making with greater ease, clarity, and clear purpose.

We are not a medical facility and we do not dispense any medical advice. We have and would always guide our program participants, to consult with their doctors, healthcare providers, and family members in making medical decisions for themselves and those they love. Neither Mass General Hospital nor any member of its medical staff endorses any program being offered by the Option Institute and its teachers.

NOTE: Attendance of live sessions via Zoom are required to complete this course.

Please note, this is a per-person registration



PRE-REQUISITES for attending Advanced Power Dialogues are:

  • Completion of The Option Institute’s PowerDialogues program.
  • If it’s been more than 5 years since you attended PowerDialogues, please call 413-229-2100 to discuss options.

NOTE: Attendance of live sessions via Zoom are required to complete this course.

Please note, this is a per-person registration


Dear Donor,

Jeannie Reid was searching for answers to the challenges she and her family were facing. Jeannie and her husband Stuart’s son, Carson, had been diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder, a condition on the Autism spectrum. For Carson that meant being completely involved in obsessive behaviors and only using minimal words to identify objects, as well as frequently and completely melting down.

Soon after, Jeannie found the book, “Son-Rise: The Miracle Continues” and when she read it, she KNEW she had found what she was looking for. She began using some of the Son-Rise techniques described in the book on her own until she was able to come to The Autism Treatment Center of America for the Son-Rise Program Start-Up. As she put into practice what she learned there, Carson’s world was opening up. Today Carson is attending a Montessori school as a 'typical' student and functioning at or above typical grade level, being fully verbal and conversational, and very interested in learning about the world and interacting as much as possible with other people. He is even taking swim lessons at the local YMCA and doing great!

“It has been wonderful to get, and stay connected with other people and Son-Rise parents from all over the world. My son’s progress had already come very far, but now I truly believe we can go all the way!”

Jeannie wrote.

Stuart Reid then attended the Empower Yourself course and brought home a new sense of clarity, balance and personal power. He shared his new empowerment with Jeannie and she in turn gained in confidence, strength and enthusiasm. Their own relationship began to flourish anew, as well. Life-altering changes were happening for Jeannie and her family.

Jeannie journeyed again to Sheffield, this time for the Fearless course at The Option Institute to help her recognize and overcome her personal obstacles. Jeannie wanted to continue her amazing journey as she had found using the techniques she learned in The Son-Rise Program and in Fearless had absolutely changed the lives of everyone in her family.

But, because the Reids’ finances had been seriously stretched by then, their next steps were put on hold. Then an amazing event changed everything. Jeannie’s college roommate and lifelong friend decided to start a Son-Rise Program scholarship fund for people from the Cleveland area. Since then Jeannie has been able to move ahead with her courses, taking Radical Authenticity, Son-Rise Maximum Impact and Son-Rise Wide Awake ... and eventually she became a Certified Group Facilitator.

Jeannie Reid’s story is about wanting BIG and making it happen. She is about to embark on her renewed private practice as an art therapist, and plans to be a super advocate for The Son-Rise Program in her area. Her wonderful new life is a product of her persistence and belief, and of the wheels she helped set in motion for others when her friends learned of how she and her family had been impacted by The Son-Rise Program.

“I know I will be able to give back by helping others, and that will be the top of my personal mountain! Thank you to everyone who donates! You are making a big difference in the world!

Jeannie Reid


Dear Donor

Two years ago, Antonio's kindergarten teacher told us something was not quite right with our little boy. He was not socializing, he somersaulted all the time and hardly spoke at all. At the time I was working for a municipality close to Florence, Italy and basically I had nothing left after seeing to basic necessities.

In the meantime, I looked up Autism with Google and as I was also looking for happiness and personal growth, I was guided to The Option Institute, thence the Autism Treatment Center of America. I read up as much as I could and started trying to apply the “Happiness is a Choice” suggestions. I'm not quite good at it but it has helped me with attitude, and everything else that seemed trying is really different after all this.

When I decided to come for The Son-Rise Program Start-Up, I really had little or no money to pay for it. I spoke to my friends, old and new. My mother helped me, friends I thought couldn't [help] tried their very best and the scholarship did the rest.

What the scholarship did was give a HUGE boost to my fundraising. About six friends contributed the rest, at the travel agency a very kind lady who I may now call a friend helped me some more. I am overwhelmed with gratefulness. Here I am, happy to have attended the Start-Up program and looking forward to learning more and praying to God for guidance.

So the gist of the matter is, I am a happy mum who hopes to implement a wonderful relationship with her child and is riding a not so easy moment with lots of hope in her heart and THANK YOU is not enough for what I feel. I still remember William's words, “If you do what you've always done, you will get what you've always got.” Now I'm trying to do different, bit by bit, day by day. I feel the difference already.

About Antonio ... we are going on with the Italian program and I play with Antonio after school in a quiet room in the house. Knowing what the little guy is exposed to (he's always putting his fingers in his ears and he seems to have problems with too much light in his eyes), I find him very brave as he bears it tolerably. Drums a lot to digest it all.

When we went to the doctor, just weeks after starting the program at home, she told me that she found him more attentive. His attention span has increased. He is also tagging or pulling at one's arm when looking for attention. The child psychologist last Saturday reported the same thing and what's more, my son has always required that I enter the room, hence assisting in every session. Well, this time he went in along with the doctor and told me, “See you later.”

At school, his teacher who speaks English as well, read up and watched my DVD (Kyle’s Journey, Jade and “I want my little boy back”). Now she's changing, bit by bit and I do appreciate that very much. He seems to be OK with her and actually sent me away from class this morning, again telling me, “See you later.”

He is now ONE HUGE GREENLIGHT and I'm hoping to be able to really have volunteers (still looking), raise funds and settle down to business.

God bless,



Dear Donor,

I am the mother of three children, all on the Autism Spectrum. Before I heard of the Son-Rise Program and the Option Institute, I was a desperate, angry and depressed person…. I was on Anti-depressants, sleeping multiple hours of the day, and for a period of time, using alcohol to run away from my pain.

Then I heard of the Son-Rise Program. I called to find out more about it and thought “this if for me!” But I could not afford it. You see raising one child with Autism is very expensive but raising three is just outrageously expensive with all the therapies and dietary interventions that we were doing.

But I was offered a full scholarship to the SRSU program. I have since attended all of the Son-Rise Programs and many of the Personal Growth programs offered by the Option Institute.  Each time I have been given a scholarship and each time I go I learn more about who I am and I change for the better each and every time.  Because of your most generous support, my children are recovering from Autism, I have found happiness in my life!  I am no longer on anti-depressants and I have so much more energy.

YOU are the reason that my family is in recovery. It is because of YOU that my oldest son now is enjoying school.  YOU are the reason my second son is speaking. YOU are the reason my daughter is no longer as rigid and controlling as she once was.  Thank you does not even begin to cover how much gratitude I have for you.  I thank God every day for you and I do not even know you.

Please know that you are changing lives with your donation to ATCA and the OI.  It is because of you that every day people are getting the help that they need. Thank you, thank you and thank you!

With so much love,

Kerry Rihtar