Are you getting everything you want out of your personal and/or professional life? Or, like many, have you found yourself settling for less than you wanted or felt you deserved? It is possible to overcome the feelings that are holding you back! Many people have come to the Option Institute to overcome their fears and supercharge their self-confidence in order to feel strong on a day-to-day basis and ultimately, to pursue their greatest goals.
How Does Assertiveness Affect Our Lives?
Personal empowerment means, at its core, going for what you want without reserve or apology.
So many of us have difficulty being genuinely empowered and assertive. Certainly, there are numerous seminars and workshops that aim to help us take a more empowered role in our lives, but oftentimes, the focus of these workshops rests upon changing our behavior.
How the Option Institute Can Help
We have a unique strategy. We have seen that individuals’ behaviors are fueled by their beliefs. So, it is the cause, not the effect, that we focus on helping you with.
An important question: Do you secretly apologize for wanting what you want?
Over and over again, we see participants in our programs take an apologetic stance toward what they want. So many of us apologize for our wants that we may not notice all of the ways in which we do this.
Sometimes, when telling people what we want from them, we dance around the issue, afraid that they will judge us, fight us, or ignore us. We might feel guilty about pursuing the things we want, especially if what we want is at odds with the desires of someone else. The unspoken truth: it is not truly the judgments of others that we fear, it is our own judgments of the things we want – or even our right to want them. Thus, we end up refraining from ever really going for what we want and then wonder why we seem to be living so far from the lives we desire. Some of us don’t even bother pursuing many of the things we want in our careers or relationships. Often, we don’t clearly articulate them even to ourselves.
Building Self-ConfidenceWe are so petrified of “failure” that we avoid the whole endeavor. But again, this is just another face of our apology. We see “failure” as proof that it wasn’t okay for us to want what we wanted in the first place. If we had self-confidence and we weren’t apologetic about what we wanted, failure to achieve what we pursued would mean nothing about whether it was okay for us to want it.
As long as we judge ourselves as not okay, not worthy, not important, as stupid, incompetent, selfish, we will always be apologizing for what we want, and thus, we will always be holding ourselves back. We can try to “force” ourselves to be more assertive and act more empowered all we want, but we will be fighting the same battle over and over again, and never really reaching our desired destination.
If you have any difficulty whatsoever with your own empowerment and assertiveness, we can absolutely help you.
In our programs, you will learn how to uncover the limiting beliefs and perspectives that you may hold. You can then question and challenge these beliefs, and change them, if you choose. What’s more, we can help you adopt and strengthen new beliefs which support your self-confidence.
Then, there will be no fight to change your behavior. Once you change your thinking, your empowerment can be unleashed.
Personal Stories — Creating Personal Power
I have had a lot of fun this week. I have integrated my soft and loving side with my authenticity. I have really enjoyed watching myself and others grow. I have been amazed to watch a roomful of strangers completely open up and share themselves to everyone’s benefit.
Business Owner & Mother, Indiana
I’ve learned here that self-confidence comes from within, that it’s something I decide and give myself. No one else can fill me up, but I can by being passionate, daring, believing in my dreams and myself and acting with conviction.
Option Process® Mentor/Counselor and Group Facilitator, Washington
This week has been an adventure of self-discovery-better than the Discovery Channel!. I’ve learned to really love myself and find out why I received the gift of a tumor. I learned that I can take care of myself, especially my health. I am responsible for me, my happiness, my actions, my choices of feelings and behaviors. I learned how to receive unconditional love by also having it within.